Ask for what you want. That's it.
What??? That's it?
Yup, and it’s taken me almost forty years to learn this secret.
Asking for what you want makes you vulnerable, and it is scary (sometimes). For me, the more important the request, the scarier it is to ask. The treasures come when the other person hears you, and one or all the following can occur:
They help you achieve your goal
They save you lots of "in-between" steps
You can learn from another person’s mistakes
They say YES. On the spot, and you are done.
Asking is easy. It's simple. It takes practice, and it pays off.
What do you want?
What are you willing to ask for?
When we ask for what we want, we also need to know three magic words that can transform our lives.
I work every day at saying "no" so that when I say, "yes" it means something. My "yes" is important to me. I do this to create space in my schedule so when urgent stuff comes up I am mentally equipped to handle the situation objectively and thoughtfully. It is important to remember why. “Why” should align with our personal vision statement. If we can wield these words wisely we are on the path to peace of mind.
Being able to say no and yes are integral to our self-care. Here’s another tidbit for you.
We love others the most when we can:
1. Listen
2. Accept
3. Apologize
in no particular order—
Do you have any insights that you would like to share?
What are you not asking for that you know you need right now? Are you saying “yes” when it doesn’t align with your values?
Not sure what you need? Schedule a time and let's chat, it won't hurt... I promise.